Alone I love but lonely is uncomfortable.
- Hayley Jo Anne
- Mar 6, 2020
- 2 min read
Have you ever been in a room and felt more alone than when you sit by yourself?
Have you ever sat and listened to conversations and wondered why you surround yourself with those people?

The idea of being alone has never scared me but the idea of being lonely has. Sounds bizarre right?
What I mean is I crave my alone time, days where I do my own thing, entertain myself. I love that but i feared loneliness. It screamed weakness and looser to me, i now see it as a gift & lesson.
Travelling has recently lead me to a point of feeling lonely, everyone is a new friend so the relationships are slowly growing into a place of comfort and relaxation but they are not there. You both tread lightly not wanting to fully push your values or morals on each other or you may even start to feel a disconnect after what you thought was a great base to friendship. I have also felt the concern of not having someone near if i became injured or emotionally needed support, we take that for granted growing up with parents and family friends so close by.
When i struggled with long term health concerns I have felt the same even though support has been given being misunderstood is a lonely place to exist.

It is in these places I have learnt my biggest lessons though, I have learnt what I will and will not tolerate. And by tolerate I mean honour what serves my higher being and happiness.
What serves yours? What energy? What activities? What food? What people?
Sit and ponder these, even write down what makes you happy and content when totally alone.
So that all being said the best news is when you are lonely you learn to love yourself, all you are and what you can give to the world.
You learn to be strong and own the true essence of the human you are here to be!

How to find YOU is the most intense, uncomfortable yet beautiful journey, it is a gift to you so embrace it as many avoid it all their lives.
I find it is best to be in nature, walking, swimming or simply being. Journaling too is a beautiful source of sharing all that you are struggling with but better is to share your dreams and hopes in there. Bringing those amazing thoughts into the forefront of your mind sets your in appreciate and abundance mode.
Once you implement these you see you are surrounded by beauty and how life is ever evolving, the gifts the world offers us daily and our offerings from source.
In time you see you are not lonely, you see you are vibrating along with that rock you are sitting on whilst meditating, as a flock of birds fly over and the waves crash in front!
YOU ARE IT!
YOU ARE ALL.
You have this all inside of you, trust you do and know it, feel the discomfort and trust it. Now allow it to take you forward so far forward on the journey that was ment.
I am here for you, please reach out for support and guidance if you are struggling.
Hj xxx
Yes I have been there